Relationships aren’t really hard to have. Speaking seriously, and from first hand. Whether it be a friend or a spouse, it’s not that hard to have amazing relationships. The reason why a lot of people have trouble with relationships all the time is a simple fact. The relationship isn’t getting enough of the things it needs.
Relationships are crazy, and they need crazy amounts of attention to keep them healthy
You can’t expect anything in your life to grow or progress without giving it the attention it needs right? You can’t open a successful business without giving it attention. You can’t pass a class without giving it attention. You can’t drive a car from point A to point B without giving it attention. There’s just no possible way anything in the world gets done well without sufficient attention. Don’t let your relationships live on auto-pilot because eventually they will crash and burn.
Attention doesn’t have to be obsessive to be valuable. Attention is doing things just like this; reading, watching, and researching something that is very important to you. In other words, don’t assume you have all the answers and a perfect plan to having epic relationships. Get out there, learn some things, and spend time building relationships that will last a lifetime.
Relationships need ‘no phone zones‘ just as much as we do
One of the most important things I teach people is to get away from technology at some point, every single day. I’m all about the ‘no phone zone.’ The ‘no phone zone’ is a place and time that you enter so you can truly get away from it all. This is a place you go to where your mind can truly rest and be disconnected from the world. Well guess what? Relationships need the same thing!
I’m willing to bet there’s not many times that you get away with the people you care about. That’s not surprising, because planning trips can be expensive and cumbersome. However, one thing you can do is spend time building your relationships inside a ‘no phone zone.’ Take a hike. Go skiing. Hit the beach. Go somewhere, and do something, with those you care about the most where you’re both completely unplugged from the world. No one is more like themselves than when they’re disconnected from the grid.
Relationships thrive in the presence of other great relationships
This probably isn’t that surprising, but most folks don’t take this too seriously. Just think, if I put a sick child in a room full of healthy children, they’re all likely to get sick. Am I right? So why in the world do we think that spending our time with people who have poisonously bad relationships wouldn’t affect us? If you’re in a romantic relationship, get around people who are passionate about having great romantic relationships. If you’re in some really solid friendships, hang out with groups of people who have a deep appreciation for healthy strong friendships. This will single handedly determine the amount of drama or peace in your life.
